A new occasional column with tips on how to replace the overused “So, how are you?” and really get to know somebody, from CRUSH Readers.
I got the idea for this question while out for a dinner with a new friend who offered that she asks this of her prospective romantic partners on the first or second date.
“What’s in the trunk of your car?” from CRUSH Reader Laura
“Ask this question on an early date. It is entirely unexpected and fun. But the real beauty of it is that it is actually quite revealing without seeming overly intimate or too “interview-y.
You can tell a lot about somebody by what’s in their trunk!“ — Laura
After Laura shared her question with me, I turned the tables on her and asked “So, Laura, what’s in your trunk?”
Laura has a business organizing people’s closets and lives, and has clients up and down the East Coast. Here’s what she said:
“My trunk is clean and organized, and always has these things in it:
A bag with exercise stuff in it, just in case a last minute cancellation permits a workout
Bathing suit + towel, just in case it’s a gorgeous day and I pass a beach
Tennis gear, just in case I get a last-minute invite to play so I can say “yes!” without making a pit stop home
A 6 gallon container for gasoline, just in case I run out
A canvas bag that I use to stash old towels/blankets, etc., on an ongoing basis, just in case I pass by an animal shelter.”
I have to say — after hearing her answers — they reveal a lot about Laura. She likes to be prepared for an emergency; the fact that she is big on donating things that could be useful to others (animals included) rather than throwing them away — so big, in fact, that she has a system for it, that she is efficient with her time and thinks ahead (if a tennis game comes up she doesn’t want to have to go home and change). But what I love the most is that her answers capture her joie de vivre — she is always up for — and prepared to have — spontaneous fun, whether that’s at the beach or on the tennis courts.
So I’d love to know, CRUSH, what is in the trunk of YOUR car? Write me at Dish@PrimeCrush.com.
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